God’s will for the Family [1]   Leave a comment

Godly Family

Godly Family

But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord” Jos. 24:15

Recently, after leaving a cell group, I said to myself : “What would it be like if each family in the neighborhood had Christ as Master?

1.  God’s will for the union of a man and woman

Homosexuality having been legalized in several countries, I find it noteworthy to recall that in the beginning God designed marriage to be solely between male and female, as a monogamous relationship. God granted that the union of a man and woman procreate another being in the image of God. This is an element that differentiates the newborns of animals and humans. Human’s children are tri-une beings resembling God i.e. they have a soul, body and spirit. Animals are not tri-une creatures.

The union of a man and woman is also sacred since God instituted it in the beginning.

God created the woman out of man.

Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. “At last!” the man exclaimed.“This one is bone from my bone,and flesh from my flesh!She will be called ‘woman,’because she was taken from ‘man.’” Gen. 2:23

Imagine how Adam felt when he saw that a life, Eve, was created from his own body!

In the same way that Christ loved the Church and gave up His life to purify her, so should the husband invest himself to build up his wife. The union there is between Christ and the Church is a mystery Paul said. It can be illustrated as the union and love between a husband and his wife.

In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one” Eph. 5:28

If you’re a married man do you consider your wife as part of your own body? One day I had a discussion with a policeman who did not know I was a Christian and who was not himself a Christian. He said the law in my country made provision for “interspousal immunity” so that a spouse cannot sue his/her spouse for they are both one flesh. A spouse can request for a divorce but cannot sue his/her spouse for they are but one entity before the law.

If a husband realizes that before God, his wife and himself is one entity, he should therefore be careful in treating well his spouse. When part of the body is sick, the whole body is sick. When my wife is sick or not in good mood after a tough day, I also suffer because it will not be easy to have the same kind of conversation we use to have. There is no escape, if your spouse in unhappy, you’ll likely suffer too. If a man hurts his wife verbally/physically, he will also suffer in other ways. Love is all about giving, it is giving without expecting anything in return. If you say : “I love my wife because…”, you’re on sinking sand. If you love for a reason or because some conditions are satisfied, what will happen if these reasons disappear and the conditions are no longer present?

You should love without conditions your spouse. The scripture does not say “God so loved the world that He gave His Son because we were beautiful, smart or good…” If there was a reason, not everyone would have met this reason. God loved, period.

Paul recommended the wife to submit to the husband and to respect him. A wife will not find it difficult to submit to a husband who imitates Christ’s example. It will be a joyful submission, a place of refuge and emotional security. The reason why the man is the head of the wife(1 Cor. 11:3) and the wife is to submit to him is a divine order. Paul said “God made Adam first, and afterward he made Eve.” 1 Tim. 2:13

In no way, the bible teaches through this verse that the woman is inferior than man. Their responsibilities are different. There’s nothing wrong for women to emancipate, be leaders and blossom in the society. However, when it comes to the divine institution of marriage, the husband has been commissioned by God to lead his wife. The roles should never be exchanged. Many times husband do not want to take their responsibilities and the wife has to assume the husband role in growing kids alone or maintain the house. On the other hand, since women are being conditioned to fight for their rights, they consider submission as evil. Many times men abused on this God-given authority and women came to spit on this divine order. Many women try to usurp man’s role and when they do, they end up sinning for they have not been gifted by God and nor do they have His approval. If the husband assumes his responsibilities, submit to Christ, seeks to imitate His examples(for the husband himself is not perfect) and treat his wife well, what could lead the wife to resist submission?

The more a spouse sows good seeds in the heart of his lover, the more good fruits he/she will reap. If you do not sow, why do you have expectations to reap?

If you sow thorns, you’ll eventually hurt yourself.

They have planted the wind and will harvest the whirlwind” Hos. 8:7

Be careful at the words you say to your spouse and how you react.

Husband, love your wife as Christ loves the church i.e. without limit. Wife, show respect to your husband when you speak to him and how you treat him. Consider submission as a gift and not a threat. It is widely known and proved that kids are less prone to emotional instability if the parents love each other. It is therefore vital for a couple to invest time, love and resources to make each other happy.


Posted August 1, 2015 by Cedric in My writings (English)

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